The myomectomy

I had the myomectomy. Ouch!!! Is this what a c-section is like? Can I handle recovering from that and taking care of an infant alone? I am really not confident that I can. I don't go back to work for 3-6 weeks (depending on the healing process) and I hope to get a lot accomplished around the house, with my home business and my future baby plans in the next few weeks.

I have had a lot of time to reflect and I have made one decision. I will not do IVF. I know I want to adopt, I just need to figure out if I do it now or do I take this last opportunity and try to have a child. My doctor said I can begin trying to conceive in August. At this point that would mean donor sperm. Nor sure how I feel about that.

Should I conceive my own baby?
Pros: biological connection, control over prenatal care, economical
Cons: old eggs, won't know father, jacks up body, can't share experience with father, difficult infant stage, healing time from delivery


Should I adopt?
Pros: skip infant stage, child is known to be healthy, Africa connection (doing my part), easy on the body
Cons: expensive

Adoption is looking better and better. I just don't want to regret not trying. But I am not sure I want to do it alone. So, here's my decision regarding that: If I am in a relationship in the next year before I get a referral and we want a baby together, I will at that time try to conceive. Boyfriend or husband. But since I can't predict when he is coming, I will proceed with the adoption process.

So, time to research agencies and get house together to prepare for the home study. Either way, my child will be here in 2008!